Let Your Friends Help You
This past Friday night five friends and I spent some time eating pizza and talking about our goals for the coming year.
There was a surprise announcement which created a moment of stunned silence before transforming into bursts of laughter and girlish chattering.
But most of the goals were fairly commonplace involving health, fitness and career aspirations.
As each of us shared our goals, however, I really became aware that none of us need be alone on the journey to achieve them. With each new goal announced, the others offered ideas, resources and shared experiences.
The response to my own goal–to speak at at least one workplace, community or women’s group per month–was enthusiastic and supportive.
But then I took it one step further. I actually asked them for their help.
I said something like: “I’d like your help with this. Do you know who within your organization or community groups schedules speakers to come in? Would you give me their names?”
The focus changed from an abstract goal to one they could help me achieve. You see, as great as friends are, sometimes we just don’t connect the dots to see how we can help other. Sometimes we think the other person has it all figured out and doesn’t need our help. Sometimes we can’t think of a way to help so we keep our mouths shut.
When I asked for their help, they were anxious to help. The thing that is great about this, is that I can use these women’s names as references. That will hopefully give me a little bit of an “in” that I otherwise wouldn’t have.
What are your goals? What are your dreams? Have you shared them with your friends? Have you asked them (in a specific way) to help you?
If you tell your friends what you need, they will help you get it. Sometimes just by announcing your need to the universe you will get it by another unrelated source. I don’t know how it works but I do know that it works.
Of course, it’s all in God’s own time and by His greater design, but He can work miracles through friends. But first you have to let your friends know what you need.
